Have you ever wanted to post something to Facebook or Twitter or [insert social media platform here] but felt that sharing something would lead people to think that you were searching for attention? I have.
While there are definitely things I do not share on Facebook I have felt lately that there are somethings that people would rather not.
Social media gives us a unique opportunity to curate our own lives down to a level of specificity that is unparalleled. We control almost everything about the digital image we portray. We can post pictures that show us in just the right light, share news articles that directly reflect our ideals, post statuses that portray a happy life, but is it real? Yes some people have their shit together and to those people I say…I am so jealous because I do not. I am constantly wishing my life was more perfect. If I just had more money. If I just had a cat. If I just had a better dinner. If I just had… that is the number phrase in my phrase book.
I have a friend, whom I love dearly, who does something that I do not understand. She can take upwards of 20 – 30 selfies before finding the perfect one to post on Instagram. She was appalled when I told her I usually take the first one I take, if not the first definitely the second. She curates the image she presents to the world and every time she does something like this I always think, is something wrong with me that I just take the first photo? A couple years ago when I was unemployed and working toward that first job I posted something that basically said “everyones life is so perfect, what is wrong with me?” I was over a year out of college and still not full time position while it looked like everyone I went to college with was getting job offers left right and center. I was surprised when many of people commented that their lives were not perfect and that Facebook was the perfect smokescreen to cover up real struggles. My first reaction was, why? Every time I got a job rejection I posted about it on social media, not because I wanted sympathy but because it was what was happening in my life and just in case anyone was following along like a mid-day soap opera I wanted to make sure they did not miss an episode.
Should I not post my political views? Should I not post that my love life is nonexistent because I feel like a unloveable loser? Should I not have this blog to Erica-splain my life to you because well, you can find out everything you need on my Facebook page?
I have never felt the need to hide how much it hurt to get job rejection after job rejection. I have never felt the need to hide how much I was unhappy at first to have moved away from home. I have never felt the need to take more than one selfie and post it to Instagram or Snapchat. I have never felt to hide failures or successes. My life is definitely curated but not to the extent that I feel the need to hold a photo shoot anytime I want to post something on Instagram or not post something about the crappy day I had at work because someone may find out I was not in love with my job.
My life is not picture perfect but that suits me and in my opinion, gives a true account of my life at the moment. Not feeling like I have to present this perfect image to many people I have not seen or talked to in many years is liberating and gives me the ability to allow them to see the real Erica.